I was asked what I think the perfect marriage is and how do you make marriage last?
My answer there isn't one!
But here are my thoughts on what you need if you even have a chance at making it last.
When you get married the bible tells us that two become one and I believe that but staying that way is all up to you!
I think you need to find someone whose biggest fear is losing you not because they cant be alone but because without you they are not complete. I think you should fight like a married couple but make up like your life depends on it. Talk like you are and actually be each others best friend. Always flirt with each other like you did when you first fell in love. Protect each other like siblings. Never go to bed angry, always kiss each other goodnight and always always always make sure your better half never has a single doubt about how much you love them.
Because if you ignore them they will ignore you. If you don't have actual conversations (not questions with one word replies) then you will reach a point when you just won't speak anymore at all. If you don't put any effort into it eventually neither will they and the two that became one will just be two again. Leading totally separate lives even if you are under the same roof.
Marriage depends on you and what you put into it. The first thing you should put in it is God. You reap what you sow. And you get out of it what you put into it. I pray daily for God to make me the kind of christian woman, mother and wife I need to be for him, my husband and my family.
That is my answer!